REPOST: Please Put down Your Cell Phone While We’re Having a Conversation

“Sorry, I just had to respond to my friend real quick. I lost my train of thought. What was I saying?” seriously guys, I’m sure you can read this for a few minutes and those apps and stuff can wait. It’s so sad that modern tech can either help us or ruin our relationship.

Everyone has that family member, be it an elderly aunt or uncle, a grandparent, or what have you, that’s simply out of touch with the times. They take advantage of every opportunity to remind you how good things were when people wrote letters to one another with feather-tip pens and used clotheslines instead of machine dryers. They warn that cellphones and the Internet spell the end of society.

When I interact with my grandmother, who refuses to learn how to e-mail, I silently assure myself that I’ll never be like that when I’m older. Thing is, maybe I already am…

You see, texting during a one-on-one conversation bothers me. It’s like an interruption of the natural flow of things. Imagine watching a climatic scene of a Broadway play and one of the actors stops to respond to a Facebook message about how hot Bradley Cooper is. The audience would be livid and her (or his) career would be over. Pulling out her phone ruined the flow of the scene.

Sorry, I just had to respond to my friend real quick. I lost my train of thought. What was I saying?

Oh, yeah. The kind of texting that bothers me is not the kind where someone responds to a message every now and then, nor the kind when you are in a big group just hanging out. It’s the one where you are having dinner with a friend or colleague who can’t help but look at their phone every five minutes and reply. They smile as they type and literally “lol.”

No matter how you put it, I feel texting encroaches on quality time. They say nonverbal communication matters more than the verbal kind. To me, constantly taking out your phone to text is the same as saying “I could care less about your time and I’d much rather be doing something else.” You may assure me that’s not the case, but right after you say so you look right back at your phone and miss my comments about seeing the Wolverine movie.

In an episode of HBO’s Girls, Marnie claims in-person communication is always ideal — but old-fashioned. Like telegraphs and rotary phones. In her opinion, texting is the mode of communication of the times.

Marnie is a fictional character in a TV show who reflects the perspective of many adults in their 20s, and, especially, many teenagers. Texting during a conversation in person is a sign that things are indeed changing. People are choosing to communicate via 140 character messages instead of verbally.

I can’t blame them. It’s easier and faster just to text. I text all the time to inform people of current socials events. No one wants to always go through the motions of greetings and salutations when they just want to let you know they are on their way or to invite you to a party. Why would you take a 30-minute train ride, or be stuck in traffic for an hour (I don’t miss L.A. highways) to talk to your friend in person when you could just text?

I say this not sanctimoniously but sympathetically. It’s difficult to combat the allure of instant gratification. I like hearing the sound of my Kim Possible ringtone. In my brain, it’s tantamount to attention and approval. I fear that I will get hit by some car one day because you’ll often find me texting while crossing the intersection. I have a hard time not responding when I hear that beep beep BEEP beep and see that little speech bubble on my screen.

But I’m committed to stay present in the moment. So much so that I sometimes hand my phone to a friend before we talk to show him or her I plan to give them my full and undivided attention. Daydreaming is another matter entirely, but that can’t be helped.

When it comes to relationships, there’s nothing more craven than to break up via text message. You save yourself the pain of seeing your significant other’s face and hearing their accusations yet deny them the genuineness the situation requires. We often times hide behind the text message like an LCD shield. Typing our vexations to our partner is easier because it’s so impersonal.

So, why does it bother me so that friends pull out their phones and text during a conversation? Because like the advent of devices like Google Glass, geniuses are constantly inventing more ways for us to interact with digital media yet ignore one another in person. Because one day, and one day soon, dear Marnie just might be right. Who will have time to talk in person when you can text, Facebook, Skype, e-mail, G-Chat, and whatever other forms of virtual communication they devise in the next five years?

I urge you, dear reader, to let me know if I’m dead wrong. But would you kindly put away your phone and be present in our conversation? Is that too much to ask?


Good read from Thought Catalog.




Why I don’t use make-up…

So I’ve been asked a lot lately by friends and families on why I don’t use or put any make up on my face. I’ve been here 23 years and I can really count how many times those brushes and lipsticks touched my face and lips and it’s only twice—wedding day of my cousins and that’s it. I won’t lie, I use lip balm or chap stick and I don’t consider it “make-up” because I use it on purpose and that is to prevent my lips from bleeding from chapping(I peel dry/dead skin from my lips so they bleed, teehee).

It’s hard to explain why I don’t use them rather; I don’t have any explanation to explain at all. Is it really necessary that if you’re a girl you’re supposed to wear make-ups, dresses, be sexy, and be pretty and all? Can a girl just live the life she thinks she deserves without any explanation? You won’t know maybe she’s allergic to make up or something bad happened in the past that made her hate or stop using make up. We will never know. Unless she tells us in a way she finds it comfortable or when she gained your trust. A girl is pretty without any make up on. Beauty is all about love and once you have love inside you—you can see beauty in everything. No matter how ugly the physical appearance is, it doesn’t matter (well unless the person is really ugly and her soul is sold to the devil to do so much evil. Can’t blame you or me for hating that, I guess? #RealTalk #IwontLieAboutThisOne #ImSorry)

Oh and another thing, just because I don’t or I never had a boyfriend doesn’t mean I’m gay or I hate love. Just because I don’t wear sexy or “in” clothing doesn’t mean I’m out of the trend. Just because I wear simple and people call it lame or old-y/granny dresses doesn’t mean I’m so old fashioned. Just because I stay at home almost every day doesn’t mean I’m weird or a man-hater. Just because I love the role of being a mom or me loves doing household chores doesn’t mean I’m too mature, there’s always this immaturity or childish inside us and I have those.

We live life differently. Let’s all keep that in mind. My professor told me that “beautiful for me may not be beautiful for you. Beauty is all about perspective”

So, the answer is this; I want my life to be simple as possible. We live in a complicated world so I don’t go with the flow. I have my own stream of life: D

Plus, it’s hot where I’m from so imagine yourself in full make up and its dreading 35-40 degree C outside. I don’t want to look like im crying black tears, srlsy! Good luck on that!


*pardon the grammar hope y’all get my point*


Tita ❤


Diet is all about…

Going on a diet is not always food. It’s all about mindset. In my opinion, you can still go on a diet even if you eat lotsa junk food as long as you move or do some activities after eating them.

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My doctor told me to go on a diet. To be honest, I don’t eat that much but I kept on gaining weight and it’s because I don’t move after every meal and because I’m lazy(and I won’t lie about that). Simple movements like a little walk, house cleaning, sweeping/vacuuming the floor will do (or a lil dancing ;)).

Any movement that can make you sweat everyday can help you lose some weight. You may not notice it but your brain is manipulating your body fat (my fat, our fat) by making you think that moving is tiring which leads to laziness.

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Seriously, I’ve tried apple cider vinegar and honey and boy don’t expect it to take its toll right away. Taking those herbal or home remedies still needs proper diet and exercise and oh, mindset J

But honestly, I should start cleaning now *high five*


Gotta sweat now!




Fasting isn’t always food

Seriously, I never tried doing fasting before because I really can’t stop eating(I might cry). But a good kid(a return missionary actually) told me that it’s not always food. At first I was like “what are you saying, weirdo?” And then as He explain briefly, I totally understand. 

What he’s trying to say is that if you really can’t go a day without food, or if you’re on meds that requires you to consume something before taking it. Then maybe it’s time for you to do another option. Like for example, don’t watch a TV for a day or if you drink soda, maybe try to drop it at least for a day or two.  Or in teens, maybe disconnect yourself from any social media sites or stop using your mobile phones. The options are endless. Only you can decide which is which.

Some people justify things. And you really can’t stop them from doing that because they’re still human. 

But here’s the thing about fasting. While doing, you have to stay focus spiritually. Try studying the scriptures or listen to hymns or just reflect on life and say thanks. 

LDS fasting 


***this is just my opinion. I’m not against any church teachings. Just trying to help people having trouble fasting***